How to Help Your Child Calm Down
There are few things more stressful for a parent than when their child is upset. You want to fix it and make it better and sometimes it seems you just can’t. Learning how to help your child calm down is something that can take time.
Also, an upset child or one who is having a tantrum or meltdown can really put a strain on you as a parent. It seems like it will often happen when times are already very stressed, or when you’re busy such as shopping for groceries. This is because it’s happening when your child is also stressed and they lack the skills to calm themselves.
The good news is that you can help teach your child coping skills that they will take with them for the rest of their lives about how to calm down when they are upset. You will want to be there for your child, of course, and there are things you can do to help calm him, but teaching him skills for self-soothing will stick for the rest of his life.
So, how can you help your child calm down? Here are some tips.
1. First, help him to work out what he’s feeling. Gently talk through it and give him a safe space to express what he was feeling and why. If your child has had a tantrum, you will need to let the tantrum pass before you can start to discuss
You also need to help teach your child to label his feelings. Sometimes kids have a tantrum because they don’t know how else to properly express what they are feeling. If your child has speech delays and is seeing a therapist, ask them about how to make at home and at school PECS to help express their emotions.
2. Teach your child to empathize with others. Help him to understand how his behavior affects others. For example, a tantrum in the middle of the store can disrupt other shoppers and also cause you to be unable to buy food for the rest
of your family.
If he hits, kicks, or bites, help him to understand by saying, “How would it make you feel if someone did that to you?” It takes time and practice. Empathy isn’t something that just develops overnight. Empathy will help your child to calm down in situations like this because he will think more of the big picture and how his actions impact others.
3. Work out solutions. What is the point of all that talking if nothing productive comes of it? It’s also important to talk about solutions to problems and what to do when you are feeling angry or upset.
Teach him deep breathing methods, counting methods, or other tips to help calm down, rather than get more worked up when angry or upset.
4. Manage your own anger and set the example. You cannot expect your child to do the right thing when you are setting the wrong example. It’s important that you know how to calm yourself when you get angry or upset and that you show
this in healthy ways to your child.
He will follow your example and see how to do the same for himself.
At the end of the day, it’s all about showing love, patience, and compassion, but also giving your child the proper tools to soothe himself when needed. Be there when he needs you but give him the tools to handle it himself as well. You will raise a happy,