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How I Approach Tough Mom Moments
No one told me that my motherhood would consist of therapists, in home education, IEP meetings, learning about disorders and behaviors, and tears of questioning where I have gone wrong. If they did I probably wouldn’t have known how strong I could be, how the intense love I have for my children would be the purest form of feeling love. These challenges have shown me that how I approach tough mom moments is all about how I will perceive them and, in the end, conquer them.
Protecting their body
When we first brought Korey home, 4 years ago, he peed all over our bed. Something all the nurses said was probably going to happen, and we still weren’t ready for it. I’ve been learning that some advice needs to be taken as a parent, even if we feel like we are bombarded by it all the time.
The first severe diaper rash for both my kids had us all in tears. Seeing them uncomfortable every time they had to poop and the cries of my infant begging for comfort tore through my momma heart. Every experienced parent that I talked to recommended me Boudreaux’s Butt Paste after I posted on Facebook that I had tried everything.
Upon researching them I knew this was the brand for me. When a product is developed from a parent’s point of view, like the father of four and pharmacist who brought us Boudreaux’s Butt Paste, you feel comfort in knowing someone else understands.
Made with no harsh ingredients or artificial fragrances, and is 3 P free (paraben,preservative and phthalate). It wasn’t long after each child was born that we realized they had inherited my wonderful sensitive skin. From laundry soaps to lotions I always am careful about what their skin reacts to.
Their skins love the three types of Butt Paste that I have the option to choose from. I reach for All Natural Butt Paste first to help treat their minor to moderate rashes with all natural ingredients and it is also petrolatum free! When that is not on hand the Orginal Butt Paste works just as well and when it’s a war in their diaper I go for Maximum Strength.
At 2 AM when there is a cry of a rash starting I just reach for Butt Paste and give a wipe and swipe. Then I hold my baby close as I rock him and sing softly in his ear, the connection to soothing his pain helps me through that tough mom moment.
Protecting their future
Just yesterday I received the first call for Kyler to get his at home special education teaching started, along with speech and OT. An all too familiar road we started with his older brother Korey at the same age.
No one ever told me about developmental delays, regression, Sensory Processing Disorder or Autism when I was pregnant. These aren’t the run of the mill things your doctor will talk with you about and sometimes pediatricians rarely ask the questions that help you realize there is a problem.
As soon as Korey stopped talking at 1 1/2 , we knew something was wrong. The first year I was a wreck, constantly crying and finding blame in myself somewhere. After all, as a mother, I need to protect them, give them comfort and help them thrive. It took 2 years for me to realize it’s not my fault and that I was actually being a great mother.
Those first 2 years of therapy have helped me to prepare for Korey’s continuing struggle with developmental delays, poor motor planning, speech problems and his disorders. With every setback I tell myself first that I need to lead by example, take the information, tools and teachings he is given and use them over and over at home. And my is he thriving.
Now that I know Kyler will be going through the same thing, I know what to expect. I will not allow myself to feel like a failure as a mother. Recognizing the signs of delays and getting help is the best thing I could have done so there is no need to beat myself up over it.
As simple as it is to use our favorite Butt Paste, I have tools and approaches that I have learned over the years to implement. I know that I need to let him do things himself despite the frustration and tears. He will have expectations and goals to reach and I need to be the tough mom pushing him along the way so he knows that he can accomplish these things.
I AM a tougher than these moments
Through all these things I realize that I am tougher than I thought. I’m the shining light my children need to help guide them and weighing myself down with negativity won’t help them. Just like my trust in Butt Paste, I need to have trust in myself and helping them through challenges.
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